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Splurge or Purge? Sophia Webster Evangeline Sandal

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Sophia Webster made her debut in the fashion world with her own design house in 2013. Since then her quirky designs have been flooding runways and sidewalks all over the world. The designer’s latest collection features a rose gold and white heel with cherub/angel wings located at the back . The shoe retails at Begdorf Goodman for $560.00.

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So the question is splurge or purge?

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2015: The Year Of Progression

Tribe Appeal Welcomes 2015 With A Special Message

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Today is January 20, 2015, It has been about 3 weeks since the new year rung in and about a month since the site was updated! Now before I go on I would like to share a beautiful saying that goes a little something like this…”When you fail to plan, you plan to FAIL!”.I DECLARE FAILURE IS NOT OUR PORTION FOR 2015 OR ANY OTHER YEAR! We here at Tribe Appeal know that this year is a year of progression and in order to solidify this concept we have planned. The past month was a solid month of planning, brainstorming, and gaining clarity for a better year. We suggest everyone does this, take some time out to evaluate your past (don’t dwell on it) , FOCUS on your present and PLAN for your future!

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2015 is a wonderful and exciting year I feel it and I hope you feel it! Thank you all for continuing to visit the site and I wish you all the best this year!

Throw The Most Epic Christmas Party!

The ultimate guide to throwing an EPIC Christmas party

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This is the time of year when we deck the halls, put up a tree, climb up in the attic or garage and bring out the ornaments and get everything ready for the holidays. This is also the time when everyone you know has a Christmas party and they all decide to hold them on the same night!

Come to think of it, a mobile app that shows when all of your friends are thinking about having a party so that you could schedule YOUR party some other time, would be a great new product. I’ll get on that just as soon as this blog is posted.

Have you ever noticed that some holiday parties are way more fun than others? Why? It’s really pretty simple. Some people are better at entertaining than others. They think creatively about the party experience. Conversely, some people are better at being entertained than others.

If you’re not that great at giving parties, there’s still hope. Like most things in life, all it takes is a good plan and the determination to execute it. Here are some ideas on ways to throw a better Christmas party.

First of all draw up a budget!
December is an expensive month. No-one wants to be broke before they pay bills, do the monthly food shop and buy presents for their loved ones, so know what you can afford and cut your coat according to your size.

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Decide on the venue
You have to consider where you’d like to host the party, in my opinion the home, is more intimate. A Christmas party is a good opportunity to get people to know you better and what better way than to invite them into your personal space! There’s also something really warm about inviting people to your home.

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Guest size/guest list:
After you have decided on the venue you have to consider the capacity and the number of guests. Make sure you don’t invite more people than the space can accommodate. This brings me to your guest list. Now you don’t want “drama” at your party if it is an intimate affair so make sure you invite people that like each other; family, close friends and their dates or spouses.

On the flipside, if you are having a jump-off then the more the merrier, invite everyone you know: Friends, co-workers, your BBM contact list, you decide…once that is clear the list becomes easy.

Personally, we never exclude the children from our gatherings with friends, especially at Christmas, but if you prefer not to, specify on the invitation that it is for adults only. This will give everyone enough time to counsel their nannies or organise the kids to be dropped off at grandma’s.

Alternatively, you could hire an entertainer for the day to take care of all the kids that attend. Again if your budget will not stretch that far then engage them with face painting, a Christmas raffle draw, musical chairs, and a dancing competition. Kids are really easy to please, and your friends will thank you for being so thoughtful.

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Theme/décor:
There is so much inspiration at this time of the year. There are loads of Christmas decorations and accessories out there, and it’s easy to go to the stores and get what you need. But feel free to hire a decorator if you need help.

Set up the table and decorate a day in advance. This will give you time to purchase whatever is missing to make your table and rooms look beautiful. Leave glasses until the last minute so they don’t gather lint and dust particles overnight. After setting the table, check around to make sure everything is clean especially in the areas where guests will be mingling.

Don’t forget to spray your house with insecticide, nobody wants to be having dinner and also serve their ankles as dinner to a swarm of hungry mosquito’s who have strategically positioned themselves under the dining table.

Having the right look for the house is important in order to get your guests in the mood to be merry. While it’s not necessary to transform your home into a winter wonderland, tasteful Christmas decorations on a real tree will go a long way towards building ambiance. You don’t need a full-sized train that runs through the house carrying guests from room-to-room, but any cool, old toys add to the feeling of Christmas.

A few years ago, as couple that were known to give the best parties invited us for the Christmas shindig and they did a couple of things that were very cool. First, they had the classic black and white movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life” (with the volume down) running on their big screen TV in one room and “A Christmas Carol” (again, volume down) running on another TV. This was an immediate conversation starter because everyone has a story associated with either these stories or Christmases that they have had in the past.

The other thing they did was tie their party to a kid’s charity. Every guest was asked to bring an unwrapped gift for a specific age range of kids and all of these gifts were taken to the charity for kids that would have otherwise not had a great Christmas. Having all of these toys sitting under the tree was a very cool effect for the party.

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Save the date/ Invitation
Invite guests in advance. There’ll be lots of parties around this time, the Christmas engagement calendar fills up fast and you want to get your party on the roster. Send the ‘save the date’ well in advance so your party takes priority.

Africans by nature do not RSVP, so if everyone hasn’t responded a week from the date, contact them with a quick message. Make sure you prepare a few extras as people tend to bring friends along sometimes and if you’d rather they didn’t, please indicate it in the invitation in the best possible polite way. For sit-down formal dinners, having an accurate head count is necessary to be sure there is enough seating for everyone.

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Catering:
Decide what kind of meal and the style of service, is it buffet? Sit down meal? Whatever you decide you have to plan for it in advance. Your budget will determine whether to cook or cater. Feel free to hire a catering company or get a friend or family member if you feel you need help with the cooking. Some people work till the last days of the holidays and may not have time to shop or cook, or let’s face it; you may not necessarily be able to cook everything on your menu, so get real!

If you chose to do the cooking yourself make sure you plan your menu in advance so when your guests arrive, everything is set. Keep the menu simple and opt for a buffet presentation instead of table service, allowing guests to “help” you this way.

To make your life simpler and make your guests comfortable, prepare a table with a beautiful tray with glasses, napkins and the drinks you’ll be serving. Serve your guests’ first glass to welcome them and let them know they can help themselves at any time.

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Fun

More often than not, Christmas parties are just “meet and greet” events with very little fun. Think about the birthday parties you went to as a kid. Would any mom or dad in their right mind throw a birthday party without planning some fun stuff to do? Of course not. OK, here are three ideas to get your holiday party started.

#1 Hire a Santa with a BIG personality. Encourage your guests to sit on his knee and tell him (a) if they’ve been naughty or nice (have him insist that they tell him why), (b) what they want for Christmas this year and why. Be sure that there is a microphone nearby so that everyone can hear everything that’s being said and set up a video camera on a tripod to tape every encounter. Then post the best of these videos on your Facebook page for all your friends to remember the party. Not surprisingly, the comments are often outrageous and always hysterical and they get better as the hour gets later!

#2 Have a contest for the ugliest Christmas sweater, tie or other apparel and be sure to include reference to the contest on the invitation. This will ensure that you will have plenty of contestants because everyone has a tasteless, but FESTIVE sweater, tie or shirt. This will also provide some great Facebook postings after the party.

#3 Give every guest their own stocking stuffed with party favors as they are leaving the party. You can find inexpensive Christmas stockings at any party store and the goodies can be anything from fruit, candy, little toys, pocketknives for the guys and diaries for the girls.

Holiday parties can be a blast and with digital cameras, the fun can keep going for days on your social networks. Let us know if you used any of these ideas and how your guests responded.

Ice breakers
Introduce your guests when they arrive, especially if you feel they don’t know each other “Shade meet Ngozi, you remember when you said you needed someone to bake your daughter’s cake? She bakes delicious cakes!” That usually helps to break the ice and encourages your shy guests to mingle.

Finally, get yourself ready a good hour before your guests are set to arrive. The last thing you want after so much preparation is to look stressed out when welcoming your friends and colleagues in.

Make sure you check your restroom and include a small candle or flower arrangement in there. Place a small basket with items that guest may need  – from personal care to over-the-counter pain relievers.

A Christmas party is a nice way to relax with family and friends you don’t see much of during the year. Everyone has a chance to show off their best holiday clothes and share good laughs.

Have fun, take lots of pictures, and enjoy the party!

“Hit The Floor” Star Stephanie Moseley and “TMT” Member Dead In Apparent Murder Suicide

What a tragedy all around…sending love and prayers to all involved

Fans of VH1’s Hit The Floor are mourning the tragic loss of one of the show’s actresses, Stephanie Moseley aka Hasel Star.

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According to TMZ, the dancer, who’s worked with Beyoncé, Ne-Yo, Chris Brown and more, was found dead inside an apartment in a high-end residential complex near The Grove in Los Angeles early Monday morning.

Police say they were called in to the Palazzo East around 7:30am by a person who claimed they heard a woman screaming and as many as 10 gunshots. When officers arrived to the apartment, they heard two more gunshots as they were making their way to a closed bedroom. Inside, they found Stephanie and her husband rapper Earl Hayes, dead. Police believe Hayes shot and killed Stephanie before turning the gun on himself.

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Hayes was a very close friend of Floyd Mayweather’s and was once signed to his record label. Floyd Mayweather unfortunately witnessed the gruesome murder-suicide as Hayes Face timed the boxer during his rage. It is alleged that Hayes accused Mosely of infidelity with a famous singer and went into a jealous rage selfishly ending both of their lives.

According to TMZ’s  sources, Earl Hayes had said he was going to kill his wife and the boxing champ was pleading with him to get a grip. Floyd will not say how much he saw, but he acknowledges he was a witness and heard everything. He is currently in shock and is having extreme difficulty dealing with the fact that he witnessed a horrifying murder/suicide.

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Stephanie Mosely was a promising actress, dancer, singer and all around entertainer who was adored by many. A number of celebrities took to their twitter and instagram accounts to share their condolences including “Hit The Floor” cast mates Taylour Paige, Kimberly Elise, Lance Gross, Chris Brown, Trey Songz, 50 Cent, Rihanna and many more.  Her light of a spirit touched so many and we hope that she will be remembered by her beautiful light and vibrant life than her unfortunate and untimely death.

Now this tragedy has brought a wider awareness to depression, domestic violence and gun control. Unfortunately in the black community depression and suicide is not addressed properly in many cases.

a 2008 study revealed:

Among Blacks who were already mental health consumers, over a third felt that mild depression or anxiety would be considered “crazy” in their social circles. Talking about problems with an outsider (i.e., therapist) may be viewed as airing one’s “dirty laundry,” and even more telling is the fact that over a quarter of those consumers felt that discussions about mental illness would not be appropriate even among family.

It’s time to help those in need of mental counseling and not shame them. Many people go through depression without realizing they are suffering from the illness. Depression can lead to suicide and other tragic events. This murder-suicide is a form of domestic violence and with the right tools it is possible to seperate from an abusive partner unharmed. Below are links to resources and hotlines to aid in all of these situations. Please if you are suffering from any of the above or know of anyone suffering from these please use the resources provided below. You are all loved and very appreciated, your beating heart deems you have a beautiful and magical purpose dont ever give up on life! Tribe Appeal LOVES YOU ALL!

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline– 1-800-273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233 & 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Recognizing Depression : The Symptoms

Finding A Therapist To Help You Heal

Low Cost Treatment For Depression

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Rest in Perfect Peace Stephanie Moseley, Heaven Gained A Beautiful Angel

Beat of The Week: Teddy A Feat Eddy Kenzo “African Baby”

West African and East African music meet in this great collabo by Teddy A and Eddy Kenzo. Both artists have great taste in the video showing us versatile style with designer sunnies, sprayed denim and electric prints throughout the video.  African Baby gives us that feel good vibe that reminds of of the old school African music with a modern twist. Check the tune out above!

Van Vicker Stars In New Movie “Skinned”

African film is making strides across seas

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Our favorite “Single Lady”, LisaRaye McCoy is going to make her directorial debut come Spring 2015 in a movie about a hot topic in the black community:skin bleaching.

Aptly titled ‘Skinned’, the indie film (which McCoy also stars in) will touch on  on skin bleaching, colourism and many issues that arise from them. Liberia’s golden boy, Van Vicker plays an African businessman who prefers “light-skinned” women, and unknowingly marries a “dark-skinned” woman who has bleached her skin. She has no childhood pictures of herself and lies that she suffers vitiligo. This big secret affects her ability to bear children in order to protect it.

Watch the trailer for the film below:

Will you be watching? We know we will!

Nancy Grace On Darren Wilson “It Doesnt Add Up”

Nancy Grace is known for unleashing the raw truth

Over the past few days we have all witnessed the aftermath of the grand jury not indicting Darren Wilson, the police officer who shot 18 year old Michael Brown dead. Ferguson, Missouri has seen the unfiltered emotion’s of its citizens through peaceful protests and riots. New York City, Philadelphia, Atlanta, London and many other cities have joined together and hosted peaceful protests in order to ammend the decision of the grand jury. Many people are frustrated because they feel there are multiple holes in the officer’s story and Nancy Grace is one of those people. As she looks at the evidence as an experienced prosecutor she sees many holes in his story, as many other lawyers and prosecutors have pointed out. Listen to what she has to say above!

In all this we just hope justice prevails and we pray for the Brown family during this tragedy.

What are your thoughts?