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Three’s Company Or A Crowd?

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Tony Gaskins is here to answer the question

Tony Gaskins is most popular for his great relationship advice and motivational speaking. His voice has really given women and men around the world great information to abide by when it comes to love. Well, Mr. Gaskins has decided to touch on a subject he is always asked about :Threesomes. Yes “Menage a trois” have been a trend in relationships recently and Tony had a lot to say to those asking if it is appropriate in a relationship. Take a look at what he wrote in his blog 

Should You Give Your Man A Threesome?

A man who wants a threesome is trying to fulfill a void from his childhood. He thinks that sexual pleasure is connected to manhood. He’s still hurting from mommy-wounds, daddy-wounds, and being overlooked in many ways as a child. He is searching for himself. He is being raised in a fatherless society by celebrities who glorify a sexually immoral lifestyle. Point blank, PERIOD!

I’ve received a lot of questions from women asking if they should give their man a threesome because he’s been asking for one. Some women have already given their man a threesome. I’ve even heard tell of a foursome. On that foursome, y’all are doing the absolute most and you need to sit down before you get sat down.

Let me tell you this. A man who really loves and respects himself, and also loves and respects you, will never ask you to have a threesome. Even if in his wildest imagination he wouldn’t mind a threesome, he wouldn’t ask you. A man only asks a woman for a threesome if he sees her as a piece of meat, a play toy, an accessory not a necessity. That man does not respect women because he wasn’t raised to or taught to. He most likely was overlooked by the women he admired at one point in his life. Something about him made him very insecure. I’ve known men who have threesomes and in each of them there is always a void or deep rooted insecurities. It could be something as simple as he was shorter or taller than everyone else all his life and it made him feel ostracized or alienated. It could be because he didn’t have a father in his life and his mother wasn’t much of an influence because she was so focused on herself. It could be that he was seen as unattractive all his life until he became successful or grew into his face. It could be he was bullied for being a pretty-boy, light-skinned, from a wealthy family, etc. Or it simply could be because his idols glorify the lifestyle. A lot of men are being raised by rappers who are either lost, confused, or lying to themselves and the world. You’d be surprised at how past pain and insecurities cause humans to act out.

What happens when you give into a threesome?

  • You start something that you won’t be able to finish. Once you stoop to that level and give away that self-respect, you will never get it back. If you change your mind and want to have a normal relationship, that will most likely be the end of the relationship.
  • If you are asked to have a threesome, it’s not from a faithful man. You’ve been getting cheated on the entire time. A man doesn’t go from 100% faithful and focused on you to having a threesome. I know because after I’m a faithful man and even when cheating was on my mind, hell would have to freeze over before I’d ask my wife for a threesome. So a man asking for a threesome is out there wild and reckless, but you’ve just had your head buried in the sand because you were desperate for love.
  • Once you allow a man to fulfill that lust, that desire will grow. Lust isn’t like thirst, it’s not quenched when you give into it. Lust grows and gets stronger every time you give into it. To control lust you have to starve it, not feed it.
  • Your man will want so many more women that one day he will be over you and move on with the next best thing. Even if it takes 10 years to happen, it’s going to happen. A man who gives into that type of perversion isn’t the type of man to be satisfied with one woman for the rest of his life.
  • The other women you bring into your bed will catch feelings for your man and he will catch feelings for them. They will also have one on one sex behind your back. It’s just a fact.
  • You ruin your chance of having a happy, healthy, wholesome family and marriage. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Sex with another person outside of your marriage is a sin. I’m not just speaking against God, but against your body. It creates soul-ties that become nearly unbreakable. Those acts began to eat your relationship alive from the inside-out.
  • It will never be the same.
What to do if you’ve already had a threesome? 
That’s up to you and your heart. Being a man, I don’t think you can change that man. He has to want to change and he has to want God’s help. He won’t be able to do it alone. He’s not strong enough. He has to have a reason to change. You won’t be enough, a child won’t be enough. It will have to be something that happens to him. The feeling of unhappiness and emptiness will have to overtake him and push him to change.
If it were me, I’d ask for a change of lifestyle from him. Then I would sign up for therapy as individuals and also do couple’s sessions. I’d get professional feedback. Then I’d weigh it all with my heart. I’d ask myself if I really believe that things can be repaired. Then I’d watch my partner closely to see if I can see any changes. If after all that I still feel unhappy, incomplete, lonely, lost, and confused. I’d get my life, leave the relationship, learn lessons from my mistakes, accept the consequences of my choices, and start over fresh.
That’s just me though. I’m monday-morning-quaterbacking so it’s easier said than done. It is a solid plan of action though. It does help and it does work. I help clients do it everyday.

Let me tell you about your man: 
Your man isn’t a man yet. He is a grown-boy. He is still hurting. He is still lost. He is trying to fill a void that has no bottom. It will never be filled by having random sex with randoms and inviting plagues into your bedroom. Your man needs a life coach, a therapist, and a counselor. He also needs a Holy Bible, a true life’s purpose, and a mission in life. Success, money, fame, notoriety, etc is not enough for him. He can have all of those things but still have no purpose.
You have to stand your ground. You have to pull back. You have to let him go so he can grow. If he truly loves you, he will change. If he’s unwilling to change, he never really loved you and he isn’t ready to change for you or for himself.

Let me talk to your man! (Show him this):
My man. I know you’re hurting. I know you’re unfulfilled. I know you had a rough childhood. I know others have made this lifestyle look cool. I know it’s been said that this is what being a man is about. I know it’s hard to be different. I know it’s hard to be disciplined. I know it doesn’t seem to make sense that you should be with one woman for the rest of your life. I’m here to tell you that it’s worth it. I live it. I haven’t always been the man that I am today. You think you had women? You haven’t had women. When I was broke, busted, and disgusted I still had women. I had more women than I could count. Any woman I ever really wanted, I had. I had women and I gave women away. I had so many women I had women on lay-away and rent-to-own plans with other men. Every guy who knew me came to me if they wanted a woman to sleep with for a night. I didn’t respect women or understand women. I was hurt. I was confused. I was lost. I was a grown boy. That’s why I go so hard on God’s team to help restore the hearts of women today because I used to persecute the hearts and minds of women daily. I’m a sell-out now, you’re right. I sold out to God and that’s who I work for. It’s painful giving away the game everyday and denying my flesh. It’s painful not being able to play the “game” that I played on the highest level. It’s not easy but I do it because it’s worth it. I’ve experienced something new that I’m going to tell you about.

It all changed at about the age of 25. I now realize that a woman is the greatest gift to this Earth. You couldn’t pay me to cheat on my wife now. I wouldn’t sleep with Beyonce for a million dollars even if she was single and ready. I mean that with everything in me. Why? Because I tried it God’s way. I became 100% faithful to my wife in mind, body, and spirit and my life changed in ways I didn’t know was possible. I experienced side effects like happiness, peace, success, joy, content, favor from God that passes understanding, and so much more. I will NEVER go back to the man that I once was. I don’t even cheat with myself, if you know what I mean. I save every ounce of sexual energy for my wife. As a result, I couldn’t be happier and my relationship couldn’t be better.

Know this, your woman loves you with all her heart. Any woman who will give you a threesome loves you. She loves you even though she doesn’t love herself. It doesn’t mean she’s nothing, it means she’s lost and searching for someone to love her just like you are. The problem is that neither of you know what love is. Give real love a try. Be faithful to your woman. Give yourself to her. Marry her and love her the way God intended for her to be loved. I promise your life will change for the better. I promise you’ll experience a peace and a favor that you can’t put into words. I’m living this. If you think I’m lying, try to set me up and then let the jezebel report back to you about how bad I hurt her feelings. Four or five years ago I would have fell for it easily, but now I know for a fact I’ll never go back to that way of living. I have to say that confidently and believe it because if I leave any room for doubt, the enemy will move in for the kill.

Man-up!! It’s that time!! Be different. Stop trying to fit-in and stand-out! The world needs you. Your kids need you.

Young lady, let me talk to you:
You are worthy. You are a child of God. You are His prize creation. He gave you influence which is one of the greatest gifts you can have. You are the backbone of the world. Without you, there is no world. Without you, we cease to exist. You run the world because you have to receive the seed and turn it into a child who can change the world. The world evolves around you. You have all power on Earth. If the adversary wants to take down any man in the world, he has to go through you. You’re more addicting than any drug. Your power is right beneath the power of God and you were made in His image.

Now from this day forward, never forget what I just told you about yourself. Never forget your worth, your power, your influence. Use it sparingly. Use it wisely.

If you ever meet a man who doesn’t want to give you His world, keep moving. God created you to share the world with your man. He gave man dominion over the world, but He gave you influence over that man. That’s how your ancestors have either destroyed men or made them great. How you use your influence is your choice. Know your worth. If you’ve never been told, now you know. Go forward boldly. Go in confidence. Go in peace. Love yourself and know that you deserve love. Never settle. Never give away your influence for “love.” That’s not love. Love won’t ask you to live on your knees. Love won’t ask you to go against your true nature. Love won’t ask you to compromise your self-respect. That’s not love. You can’t be so desperate for love from someone else that you sacrifice the love for yourself.

Ok, I’m tired of typing. God bless you both!!

Tony G.

*Catch me on the Real Love Tour coming to a city near you

*If you have a general question you’d like me to address please email advice@tonygaskins.com with the subject: Blog Question

*I understand there are exceptions to every rule. If you had a threesome and now your relationship happy, healthy, and whole, God bless you. That’s your story but that’s not the case for the other 99%. I know because I coach couples from 6 different continents and your case is not the norm.

*Please seek professional help. I am a professional life coach, but I am not a therapist. I can support you and help push you into greatness and purpose but you need more than me. You need God’s help too!

*To the men and women who I have stepped on your toes, I meant to. When they heal you will walk a lot better.

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There you have it, what are your thoughts on threesomes? Do you agree with Tony Gaskins?

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Beat of The Week: G-Rize Feat Chris DeShield “LIB Ladies”

For my LIB girls dem! #LiberianGirlsRock

Rising Liberian artist G-Rize has brought us another hit along with smooth crooner Chris DeShield called “LIB Ladies”. The video not only brings light to Liberia’s amazing talent, but our great fashion. The two super stars rock outfits with a hint of African print, while the lovely models dazzle viewers with custom made ankara and kente print pieces. Everything is on point in this video from the fashion, to the vocals and locations. This is a great song to rock with your fellow LIB or African sisters period! We can’t wait to see more from both great artists!

Great Habits to Begin Your Morning With!

Your morning sets the tone for the rest of your day

There are some people who wake up and have the brightest smiles on their faces and others who wake up with a solid frown. That frown normally leads into a crappy day and has the person asking everyone but themselves why they can’t catch a break.

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Well abide by these 11 morning rituals every morning and you are sure to have a wonderful day filled with positive experiences.

1. Drink a Glass of Warm Lemon Water

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Drinking a glass of warm water with lemon first thing in the morning is an excellent way to get your body going. It’s like oil for the Tinman as it goes to work lubricating all of your different internal systems.

You want the water to be warm so that it’s not a shock to your system first thing in the morning. The lemon will help get your digestive system ready for the coming meals, and makes the water tastier. You can add a bit of honey to it as well if you want to cut down on some of the tartness.

The Rehydration Process

When you wake up in the morning you’ve just gone without water for about 8 hours, so it’s important to turn things around and start up the flow of water again. What you don’t want to do is leave out the water and go along with your day, having breakfast and other beverages before addressing your need for water.

2. Wake Up Earlier

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If you’ve turned into a night owl because of the peace and quiet it affords, you’ll be equally satisfied by the same peace and quiet an early morning provides, and it’s simply a matter of shifting your personal time to the wee hours of the morning rather than late at night. The difference to your body is noticeable.

The Ideal Time to Wake Up

Wake up in conjunction with circadian rhythms if possible. Civil twilight is a great time to wake up because there will be enough light to see, the birds are chirping, and you still have time to catch the sunrise if you’re keen. Since this time varies by the time of year, it may be more feasible during some seasons than others. Give yourself an hour and a half before you have to be out the door.

3. Scrape Your Tongue

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Taking time to scrape your tongue is one morning routine you won’t want to give up once you start it. It helps get rid of morning breath, and also is in line with the rejuvenation process you need to do to make the transition from sleep to wakefulness each day.

As a bonus you’ll be able to taste your food better without the film that’s on your tongue even after brushing your teeth.

The Right Scraper

Some toothbrushes come with a built-in scraper on the back of the head. If yours doesn’t have one you’ll want to invest in one. You can find some that are literally just a plastic triangle-shaped scraper, and others that feature special bristles that are designed to get into the grooves of your tongue. You can also go with the type that is stainless steel and U-shaped to get the job done.

4. Do a Stretching Routine

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Here’s a great 5 minute stretch that you can do in the morning to wake your muscles up and get them ready for the day ahead. You should always modify any workout to your own abilities, and search until you find one that resonates with you.

You can also use this time to do a yoga routine, or an exercise routine, if you feel so inclined or are trying to lose weight. However, if you currently aren’t exercising regularly we recommend starting off with just some morning stretches until that becomes a habit, and then transitioning into yoga and other exercises when you organically start to feel like you could do more than just stretch.

How Long Do I Have to Stretch?

When first starting out it doesn’t matter how long you stretch, just as long as you do it. If you only have a few minutes for it, just do a few minutes. You’ll find that as you develop the habit, you’ll end up stretching for longer periods of time, and it will naturally expand on its own without the need to force yourself to do it for a set time.

5. Rebound 100 Times

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Rebounding on a mini-trampoline is the perfect morning exercise. It’s zero impact, and perfect for any physical fitness level. You don’t even have to get any air on it for it to be effective. Just lightly bouncing on it is effective for stimulating lymph movement and drainage as well as helping your thyroid.

You can repeat this process a few times per day, whenever you feel like you need a pick-me-up. It helps keep you energized without the use of energy drinks or other sugary or caffeinated beverages.

Firms Up Your Whole Body

You’ll notice that when you first start bouncing you’re kind of going with the flow, but by the time you hit your 100th bounce your body has tightened up considerably, in a good way. This is working each muscle in your body, your leg muscles, core, and upper body. A great way to start the day, get your juices flowing, and just plain feel good!

6. Dry Brush Your Body

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Dry brushing the body is an Ayurvedic practice that helps improve your circulation and slough off dead skin cells.

Brushing towards your heart is essential, and you’ll want to start at your extremities and work your way in, covering all of your parts before hopping in the shower.

Dry brushing will help leave your skin feeling smoother, and you’ll notice the difference after you’ve dried off. Apply a moisturizer afterward to retain that suppleness.

Which Brush to Use?

Choose a brush that is good at exfoliating, but not one that is so rough you don’t look forward to using it. A dry loofah or other brush designed to scrub the skin works best. You don’t want it to be too soft on your skin or it won’t do the job, but if you opt for a softer brush you can apply more pressure so that it works.

7. Listen to Uplifting Music or Audiobook
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Starting your morning with music you find beautiful, or a book you find inspirational or motivational, is the perfect way to set yourself up for success. It can give you something to look forward to in the morning, and sets you up with the right mindset to greet the day.

You can adjust your music for the type of day you want to have, whether you need something that gets you pumped for an action-packed day, or something more soothing so you can handle a stressful day.

The mind is hungry for new tidbits of information it can go to work on, and you should feed it every day, the same way you feed your body.

Choosing the Right Audio

Whether you pick a group of songs, or an audiobook that inspires you, is up to you. Choose your songs carefully though, as they can get stuck in your head, and if this sort of thing drives you crazy you might be better off listening to a book.

8. Green Smoothie Time

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Now that we’ve woken up with the sun, brushed our teeth and scraped our tongue, rehydrated, stretched, rebounded, dry brushed the skin, showered while listening to pleasing music, it’s time to nourish the body with a refreshing green smoothie.

The green part of the smoothie is what’s really going to help boost your energy levels this morning. That’s because it will likely be spinach, kale, or some other leafy green providing phytonutrients, fiber, and minerals. Set a timer for 30 minutes after you drink it and notice how much better you feel.

Finding A Great Green Smoothie Recipe

Check out our list of amazing healthy smoothie recipes and pick the one that sounds most appealing to your morning palate. Just about any non-green smoothie can be made green with the addition of spinach or kale.

9. Meditate for a Few Minutes

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Right now you should be in a really happy place, a green smoothie coursing through your digestive system, and all of the helpful things you’ve done should all be having a cumulative effect. There’s no better time to sit and clear your mind for a few minutes.

There’s also no right way to meditate, so if you’ve tried specific methods and didn’t really like it, it’s time to develop your own personal style. Choose a position that you find comfortable, and decide if you’d like music or not. Just sitting and listening to the silence can be enough for most.

Why Just a Few Minutes?

You don’t need to go into a trance or spend an hour in the lotus position to meditate. You can get the benefits from just a few minutes and you’ll see a marked improvement in the upward trend your days start to take. We’re being intentionally vague here because “a few” can mean whatever it means to you, and however you feel in the moment (or what the clock allows in the morning).

10. Smile at Yourself in the Mirror for 30 Seconds

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This is a can’t-miss way to boost your self esteem, and once you get into the habit you’ll wonder how you ever got along without it. It’s basically just a matter of designating some time as true “me time” and seeing a happy you reflected back in the mirror.

This works on a number of different levels, but at the core is the ability it gives you to talk right to the bigger part of yourself, the part that is running in the background and getting the important things done.

Make sure you’re smiling, it doesn’t have to be a big goofy grin, just the hint of a smile works, like you’ve got some tricks up your sleeve and you’re ready to show the world what you can do. You’ll be surprised at the positive thoughts this exercise inspires.

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What you’re doing here is basically checking in with yourself, giving yourself that look of determination that you’ll need to make it through the day and accomplish all of your goals. No matter what happens the rest of the day, you’ve at least said hello to that deeper part of yourself and given words of encouragement.

11. Write Out Your Top 3 for the Day

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If you lead a busy life chances are things fall through the cracks on a daily basis. To help stop this from happening you should list the three things you really want to get done today, and above all else, make sure they get done.

Once you establish the habit of getting the most important three things of the day done, you’ll be able to build up confidence and go for bigger and bigger things. A funny thing also happens, all of the smaller stuff that you thought needed to get done either does get done without being on your list of three, or fades away because it wasn’t that important to begin with.

Just 3, No More No Less

If you start getting carried away and adding more than three, you’ll find you won’t get to the fourth and fifth and so on, and then you’ll get discouraged. Force yourself to come up with three good ones, even if your day is largely unstructured. You’ll feel better at the end of the day knowing you at least got 3 important things done.

This is priority one because in order to fit in a fantastic morning you’re going to need some extra time compared to your current routine.

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Your Super Guide To Art Basel Miami!

what you need to know about  Art Basel Miami

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Art Basel stages the world’s premier Modern and contemporary art shows, held annually in Basel, Miami Beach, and Hong Kong. Founded by gallerists in 1970, Art Basel has been a driving force in supporting the role that galleries play in the nurturing of artists, and the development and promotion of visual arts.

In addition to showing exciting works by world-renowned artists, Art Basel is always innovating, thus expanding its platform for new artists who represent the vanguard of the visual arts. Its worldwide reputation – earned over the last forty years – for showing work of the highest merit, and attracting the world’s leading gallerists and collectors, has made Art Basel the place where the artworld meets. With miles of sandy beaches dotted with classic Art Deco architecture, world-class art museums, and a glittering nightlife, Miami Beach ranks among America’s most iconic cities. During Art Basel, it embraces the artworld with special exhibitions at museums and galleries across the city, transforming the week into a dense and dynamic cultural event.

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This year’s event is going to be held December 4-7 at at nearby beaches, Collins Park and SoundScape Park in Miami. For 2014, ABMB launches a new sector called Survey, featuring “art-historical projects” from thirteen galleries including two rare “Tir-Assemblages” by Niki de Saint Phalle, outsider art by Henry Darger, mid-twentieth century works by the Brazilian artist Alfredo Volpe and more.  The original “sectors” will also return, including Nova, Positions and Kabinet, Miami Beach Convention Center ; plus all the big outdoor, public art projects in Collins Park and the films in SoundScape Park and at the Colony Theatre on Lincoln Road.

Due to an on-going fight between two factions of Miami’s Museum of Contemporary Art (770 NE 125th Street, North Miami) several members of the museum’s board resigned and started a new museum called the Institute of Contemporary Art in the Moore Building (4040 NE 2nd Avenue, Miami) in the Design District.  MOCA is still alive, and they’re having an opening reception for an exhibition called “Shifting the Paradigm: The Art of George Edozie” featuring works by the Nigerian artist on December 2nd at 7 p.m.

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Meanwhile, the Design District is rapidly morphing into “the luxury fashion district” with an incredible transformation of the entire area still underway.  Lots of stores are already open including Prada, Marni, Rick Owens, Louis Vuitton, Hermes, Louboutin, Cartier, Celine, Pucci, Dior etc. and many more are on the way.  And there’s a new “Palm Court” featuring a Buckminster Fuller dome, an enormous underground parking garage and plans for a condominium building to be designed by Chicago starchitect Jeanne Gang. You can follow the progress HERE.

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To take advantage of all the “luxury” in town for ABMB, The New York Times is hosting an “International Luxury Conference” at the Mandarian Oriental Hotel from December 1st to 3rd with guest speakers including Francois-Henri Pinault, Diane Von Furstenberg, Frida Giannini, Tom Sachs, Diego Della Valle and many more. Tickets are $4250.

The third edition of the SELECT art fair is making a bold move up to North Miami Beach where they plan to set up a 40,000 square-foot tent to hold over 50 galleries on the beach at 72nd Street. They’ll also use the art deco amphitheater already on the site for installations, performances and exhibitions. Just a few blocks south at 67th Street and Collins Avenue, the NADA fair is back in the Deauville Beach Resort. The whole strip of Miami Beach from the W Hotel on 23rd Street up to the SoHo Beach House on 43rd Street is the hottest new, high-end real estate in town.  This year should see the opening of Ian Schrager’sMiami Beach Edition  hotel (rooms are over $1,000 a night during ABMB) on 29th Street; and construction is also well under way at Alan Faena’s massive $1 billion hotel, condo and art museum complex at 32nd Street with buildings designed by Rem Koolhaas/OMA and Norman Foster.  If your budget won’t cover any of these mid-beach, mega resorts, we suggest the super-cool and trendyFreehand Miami on 27th Street were a co-ed dorm room goes for around $115 per person a night.

The Bass Museum of Art (2100 Collins Ave., Miami Beach) will be celebrating their 50th anniversary with a big gala on November 1st and, during ABMB, they’re planning an exhibition called “One Way: Peter Marino” curated by Jerome Sans.  Marino is a renowned American architect and designer and this show will include art from his private collection plus site-specific installations, an opera collaboration and a series of his bronze boxes.  The opening VIP reception is the evening of December 3rd and it will be open to the public from the 4th until March 29, 2015.

Fridge Art Fair returns for second year, this time at The 3rd Street Garage (300 SW 12th Avenue, Miami) from December 4 to 9. Their “Mega Mango Miami: The Great Opening” preview is on Thursday, December 4, from 2 to 8 p.m., with an afterparty at the infamous “den of iniquity,” The Ball & Chain(1513 SW 8th Street, Miami) in Little Havana starting at 9 p.m. This fair started in NYC’s LES in 2013 and founder Eric Ginsburg has the right attitude: “People should not be afraid to go and see art, and it should not cost a fortune.”

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A new fair called Concept will be held aboard the Seafair mega-yacht, docked downtown at Bayfront Park (100 Chopin Plaza, Miami) from December 3 to 7 with VIP previews on the 2nd from 6 to 10 p.m. Over 35 international galleries are expected.

The Gale Hotel (1690 Collins Avenue, South Beach) — that’s the spot that hosted PAPER’s “Tiki Disco” pop-up last year — will open a special “rooftop” edition of the Disaronno Terrace from 7 to 10 p.m. on December 4th. DJs are TBA.

As we mentioned two weeks ago, the SELECT art fair is moving to a tent on the beach at 72nd Street and they’ve enlisted Solange to curate a bunch of performances — including one by herself — nightly from Wednesday thru Saturday, starting at 7 p.m. She’s expected to book several acts from her label, Saint Heron Records, that will appear in the on-site, deco amphitheater.  The shows are open to the public and admission is FREE.  When we hear who’s playing (and when), we’ll fill you in.

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AB/MB and Performa are hosting an immersive performance by artist Ryan McNamara called “MEEM 4 Miami: A Story Ballet About the Internet” on December 3rd and 4th at 8 and 10:30 p.m. at the Miami Grand Theater at Castle Beach Resort (5445 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach). RoseLee Goldberg, Performa’s founder and director, describes the work by the Brooklyn-based artist: “This piece is far more complex than it first appears, because it unfolds as one surprise after another. The viewer is both totally in the moment and yet spends hours thinking about it afterward.”
$30, tickets are available HERE. Note to VIPs: There’s also an “invitation only” preview on Tuesday.

The NADA art fair at the Deauville Beach Resort (6701 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach) will host their “invite only” opening preview on Thursday, December 4, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. After that, admission is free and it’s open to the public daily through December 7th from 11 a.m. to 8 p.m.  You can also preview the fair onArtsy. This year, they’ve partnered with Contemporary Art Daily, Print All Over Me and the 15th Artadia Award. Print All Over Me will be doing special “artist editions” of clothing using images created by Jose Lerma, Amy Yao and Sarah Braman.

The PULSE fair is moving to Indian Beach Park (4601 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach) up by the Eden Roc Hotel for their 10th year in Miami. Their private preview brunch is on Thursday, December 4, 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. and then it’s open daily through the 7th. As part of their PULSE Projects, they are featuring a work by the Ontario-based artist Shayne Dark called “Tangle Wood” and also an audio installation by Jenna Spevack called “Birds of Brooklyn.” Their new media and video art section, PULSE Play, will be presented by Tumblr and curated by Lindsay Howard. Tickets are available HERE.

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Meanwhile over in the Design District, Miami’s new “luxury shopping” destination, a hybrid fashion store/design exhibition/art installation called “The World of Mr. Somebody & Mr. Nobody” featuringWalter Van Beirdendonck and Bernhard Willhelm will be open from December 1st to 15th, 11 a.m. to 8 p.m. daily at 91 NE 40th Street. Fashion from the Belgian “mavericks” will be juxtaposed with photography by Miles Ladin, graphic works by Peet Pienaar and clothes by Superella in an extravaganza hosted by Craig Robins, Sharon Lombard and Cathy Leff. The VIP opening is on December 4th with music by Dirk Bonn and drinks by Chris Adamo.

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Tim Burton’s new film Big Eyes headlines the AB/MB film program with a special screening on December 5th, 8:30 p.m., at the Colony Theatre on Lincoln Road.  It’s the story of Walter Keane, the mysterious painter of waifs with “big eyes,” who’s works turned out to have actually been made by his wife Margaret (played by Amy Adams). The screening is free, but get there super early.  Many other films submitted by participating galleries will be shown in a new, specially-designed screening room inside the convention center and nightly in SoundScape Park outside the New World Symphony (500 17th Street, South Beach).  The complete schedule is HERE.

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Russell and Danny Simmons celebrate the 5th anniversary of their “Artisan Series” with a big party for the 2014 finalists and winner — and a special performance by Miguel — at Soho Beach House (4385 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach) on Thursday, December 4th.  Since 2010, they’ve searched for and helped emerging artists by showcasing their work during AB/MB.  This year’s big winner will also receive a solo show during SCOPE NYC in March 2015.  Bombay Sapphire has collab’d and sponsored since the inception.

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Ian Schrager (and Marriott) launch their latest Edition hotel (2901 Collins Avenue at 29th Street) with parties from top to bottom.  On December 3rd, there’s a private dance party with London’s Horse Meat Disco DJs in the basement in honor of the hotel’s designers George Yabu and Glenn Pushelberg.  And in the penthouse, Absolut Elyx will create an private, pop-up club called Casa Elyx with cocktail parties, book launches etc. happening all week.  We can’t wait to check out this new hotel and are happy to hear that Ben Pundole is involved. Supposedly there’s a bowling alley in the basement.

Christie’s and the Marriott hotel group are hosting a pop-up gallery featuring original works by Andy Warhol on December 3rd and 4th in the JW Marriott Marquis Miami (255 Biscayne Blvd., Miami).  All the works — including paintings, photos, prints and works on paper —  are from the Andy Warhol Foundation, with proceeds benefiting their grant-making program.  Stop by the hotel’s fifth floor and have a look between 10 a.m. and 5 p.m. both days.  There’s also a private VIP lunch and panel discussion on Tuesday.

If you’re heading down to Miami early in the week, LAND (Los Angeles Nomadic Division) plus FLAUNT and Paddle8 are having their big gala on Monday, December 1st, 7 p.m., at the Raleigh Hotel (1775 Collins Avenue, South Beach). They’ll be celebrating “innovative women in arts and culture” with dinner and dancing and a big auction of works by artists including Hernan Bas, Sam Falls, Brendan Fowler, Rashid Johnson, Raymond Pettibon and others.  Tickets are available HERE.

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The fab FREEHAND Miami (2727 Indian Creek Drive, Mid Beach, Miami) hotel has an action-packed schedule for the week, including cool installations from Bushwick’s Signal Gallery and the LA project space Metro PCS presented by UOVO Fine Art Storage and the NEWD Art Show; a party to celebrate the re-launch of the NYC-based streetware company British Knights on Thursday, December 4th from 10 p.m. to midnight; a “Dreamcatcher Workshop” to benefit Free Arts NY on Friday, December 6th, from 4 to 6 p.m. (tickets are HERE) and a big launch party for a new art and culture mag called Nah/No Magazine on Saturday afternoon from 2 to 6 p.m.

Questlove has invited an intimate group of his friends to a private home in Miami on December 6th for a “Food Salon” with three chefs — Daniel Patterson, Dave Beran and Christina Tosi — who will each prepare one dish. The lucky attendees will eat, relax and “discuss art, commerce, and the balance of it all.”

The STANDARD (40 Island Avenue, Miami Beach) hotel and spa launch the latest “artist” beach towels — designed this year by James Rosenquist and Glenn Lignon — with a private garden picnic on December 2nd.  Sales of the towels benefit the Art Production Fund. Pick one up in the hotel’s gift shop, where Sight Unseen and Print All Over Me will also be selling a new collection of “beachy” items designed by various artists.

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The STANDARD also has a bunch of super-private, VIP dinners and parties all week, including parties for Le Baron, Andre Saraiva, Nordstrom, Rosario Dawson and Jose Parla. The annual Lazy Sunday BBQ is poolside on December 7th from 3 to 7 p.m.

The Shore Club (1901 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach). hosts a private BBQ with Island Records’ founder Chris Blackwell on Thursday with fresh fish, reggae sounds and rum cocktails.  Also, check out the backgammon boards designed by Daniel Chadwick.

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On Monday night, December 1st, 7 to 9 p.m. the Mayfair Hotel (3000 Florida Avenue, Coconut Grove) hosts a big benefit party for the Sabrina Cohen Foundation for Individuals Living with Paralysis featuring an exhibition of 50 portraits by Miami’s Henry Perez called “La Force de Femmes au Naturel.” It’s FREE and open to the public and a raffle of selected works from the show will benefit SCF.
Jeremy Scott and Moschino are having a party with Barbie on December 4th, 9 p.m. to midnight, at the Thompson Miami Beach (4041 Collins Avenue).  RSVP mandatory.

More Information can be found at http://www.perrierlovesmiami.com http://www.artbasel.com and http://www.papermag.com

Make Anywhere Your Personal Runway!

Today’s lesson how to walk in heels

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One of the most important things a lady can do is strut into a room and have all eyes on her. A lady can be as beautiful as ever and have the whole room laughing at her instead of admiring her once she lacks confidence and the ability to walk in the heels she is wearing. I know we’ve all seen that girl walking into the room like this :

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And we wonder ” Why did she even step out of the house in heels?” , there are some of you who may be that girl struggling. Well today ends your 6 inch heel woes. After listening to these helpful tips and practice you will dominate the room strutting in your stilettos with a smile!

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Alright divas the following video points out great tips to mastering your own “Naomi Campbell Walk”, that signature walk that lets everyone you have arrived into the room. Hopefully after watching this you can A) At least get across the room without stumbling and falling or B) Master the sexy heel strut you have already established. Take a look below:

There you have it! Once you’ve got the confidence and the knowledge you will definitely turn all heads in a room once you arrive. Soak in all of this helpful information and go out into the world showing everyone you’ve got IT!

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4 Reasons Why The Holidays Are the Best Time to Grab A Guy!

Now that it’s getting chilly and holidays are around the corner cuffing season has commenced!

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The holidays are quickly coming to an end, so we wanted to clue you in on a little last-minute secret: the holidays are the most wonderful time of the year to snag a guy. Those words really should resonate (and not just because of the cheesy reference to that holiday song).

Now, you may be skeptical as to why the holidays are a prime time to snag a date just in time for New Years Eve. The science of it is simple: men are more vulnerable during the holidays. Here’s why:

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1. Let’s start with the obvious. Men experience mounting pressure from their families to bring a special someone home this time of year. This translates into a rush to find the perfect girl-next- door who can gracefully sit through Uncle Gene’s creeper attempts to hold mistletoe over her head.

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2. And, don’t forget holiday parties. Men’s coworkers are unbearable enough during the day. Spending 2 more hours with them over a rubber chicken is torturous. Nothing makes that experience more palatable than having a nice date with whom to pass the time at the open well-beverage bar.

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3. There are basic biological reasons, too. Guys get cold. That’s right, just like little bears (read: awwww!) they want to hibernate during the winter season and snuggle. On that note, the holidays remind guys of home. They grow sick of Subway coldcut trios and frozen pizzas and desire a home-cooked meal. So get your oven mitts ready (or have California Chicken Café on speed dial).

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4. Finally, we all know that nothing makes a person more productive than the last minute. As NYE approaches, men and women alike want to lock in that kiss so they aren’t stuffing their faces with chex mix at midnight (side note: if you want a great party to attend, please let us know).

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Now that you have an understanding of why the holidays are the best time to snag a guy, get off the couch, start RSVP’ing to all the holiday parties you can, and pull that little red dress out of hiding.

Great Guide to Exploring Europe On A Budget

Who says you cant travel?

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The desire to travel the world, especially Europe is shared among many, but achieved by few. The main reason many people dont take the step to explore Europe is because they fear the costs. Well there is no need to fear Tribe Appeal is here! We have gathered great information from partyearth.com giving you tips on how to have fun in popular European cities with little to no Euro in your pocket. Happy traveliing!

Those lucky enough to be traversing not one but several European cities over the course of a few weeks or, as is more likely, months, may worry about the many expenditures that go hand in hand with extensive traveling abroad. While shopping, dining, and clubbing often put a strain on the budget, this does not always have to be the case. Exploring the European continent without incurring a number of hefty fees while still having a culturally enriching experience is, in fact, completely feasible. Here are few ways in which to save some of those euros.

While there are a number of things to do in Paris, options in this expensive city tend to add up. Those with strong resolve and an affinity for window-shopping, however, will find the typically Parisian Rue Charlot as affordable as it is chic. While shopping in Marais ranges from high to low end, the renowned street in question brings far more to the table than simple clothing items and basic textiles. Here, visitors have the opportunity to explore emerging, rather than established French designers, vintage clothing and, least expensive of all, Parisian art galleries. After having experienced the delights of Rue Charlot, one may find it worthwhile to stop by the nearby covered market, Marché des Enfants Rouges, as it is a great option for an inexpensive coffee and a cheap handmade crepe.

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Those sojourning in Madrid and in search of free things to do in La Latina need look no further than CalleArgumosa. With its multicultural, cosmopolitan atmosphere, this area promises an upbeat and friendly vibe and visitors hailing from all over the globe. Ethnic cuisines abound, so those in the mood for something not typically found in Madrid are in for a treat. The numerous sidewalk cafés are a viable option for inexpensive drinks and the majority of clubs boast cover charge-free admittance.

Germany, especially its capital Berlin, is another popular destination surprisingly easy to traverse on a budget. Music junkies looking to save some money by seeing several bands perform over the course of two consecutive days should definitely put some thought into attending Fete de la Musique Berlin. While concerts in Berlin are certainly not difficult to come by, the wide range of performances, as presented by amateurs and professionals alike at Fete de la Musique may be slightly more difficult to find elsewhere.

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Those hoping to continue on to Italy in the course of their trip will discover an abundance of things to do in Rome. A surprisingly inexpensive and distinctly Italian option for dinner is that of an aperitivo: the country’s version of appetizers and happy hour all rolled into one. Aperitivo in Trastevere is as popular as it is anywhere else in Rome. Freni e Frizioni, in particular, is known not only for its delectable hors d’oeuvres but its artsy vibe and electrifying atmosphere. As an auto-body shop in its former life, this small bar offers its stylish patrons an industrial setting complete with original tar pavement floors and tire-tread upholstered couches.

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Visitors seeking things to do in Amsterdam may be expecting to spend their day appreciating the architecture and various museums while spending the night exploring the more raunchy areas of the city. Amsterdam, however, has far more to offer. There are, in fact, quite a few beaches in the coastal town of Bloemendaal, which happens to be known for its water sports. Bloemendaalaan Zee, for example, boasts a seemingly endless stretch of sandy beach constantly occupied by surfers, volleyball players and sunbathers alike. With its lush vegetation and surprisingly hip beach bars, Bloemendaalaan Zee is an optimal location to visit day or night.

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No backpacking trip would be complete without a stop in London, England. Those looking to enjoy the nightlife will find plenty of bars in London. However, budget-conscious travelers would be wise to attend happy hour in Central London. The 70’s inspired Verve is an excellent venue at which to enjoy cheap and creative cocktails. Situated in the heart of Covent Garden, this mod bar and club is always filled with a mix of upbeat clientele simply looking to have a good time. Patrons who have the foresight to make use of the online guest list are guaranteed free admittance on weekends.

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More information of travelling can be found at www. partyearth.com