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Throw The Most Epic Christmas Party!

The ultimate guide to throwing an EPIC Christmas party


This is the time of year when we deck the halls, put up a tree, climb up in the attic or garage and bring out the ornaments and get everything ready for the holidays. This is also the time when everyone you know has a Christmas party and they all decide to hold them on the same night!

Come to think of it, a mobile app that shows when all of your friends are thinking about having a party so that you could schedule YOUR party some other time, would be a great new product. I’ll get on that just as soon as this blog is posted.

Have you ever noticed that some holiday parties are way more fun than others? Why? It’s really pretty simple. Some people are better at entertaining than others. They think creatively about the party experience. Conversely, some people are better at being entertained than others.

If you’re not that great at giving parties, there’s still hope. Like most things in life, all it takes is a good plan and the determination to execute it. Here are some ideas on ways to throw a better Christmas party.

First of all draw up a budget!
December is an expensive month. No-one wants to be broke before they pay bills, do the monthly food shop and buy presents for their loved ones, so know what you can afford and cut your coat according to your size.


Decide on the venue
You have to consider where you’d like to host the party, in my opinion the home, is more intimate. A Christmas party is a good opportunity to get people to know you better and what better way than to invite them into your personal space! There’s also something really warm about inviting people to your home.

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Guest size/guest list:
After you have decided on the venue you have to consider the capacity and the number of guests. Make sure you don’t invite more people than the space can accommodate. This brings me to your guest list. Now you don’t want “drama” at your party if it is an intimate affair so make sure you invite people that like each other; family, close friends and their dates or spouses.

On the flipside, if you are having a jump-off then the more the merrier, invite everyone you know: Friends, co-workers, your BBM contact list, you decide…once that is clear the list becomes easy.

Personally, we never exclude the children from our gatherings with friends, especially at Christmas, but if you prefer not to, specify on the invitation that it is for adults only. This will give everyone enough time to counsel their nannies or organise the kids to be dropped off at grandma’s.

Alternatively, you could hire an entertainer for the day to take care of all the kids that attend. Again if your budget will not stretch that far then engage them with face painting, a Christmas raffle draw, musical chairs, and a dancing competition. Kids are really easy to please, and your friends will thank you for being so thoughtful.

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There is so much inspiration at this time of the year. There are loads of Christmas decorations and accessories out there, and it’s easy to go to the stores and get what you need. But feel free to hire a decorator if you need help.

Set up the table and decorate a day in advance. This will give you time to purchase whatever is missing to make your table and rooms look beautiful. Leave glasses until the last minute so they don’t gather lint and dust particles overnight. After setting the table, check around to make sure everything is clean especially in the areas where guests will be mingling.

Don’t forget to spray your house with insecticide, nobody wants to be having dinner and also serve their ankles as dinner to a swarm of hungry mosquito’s who have strategically positioned themselves under the dining table.

Having the right look for the house is important in order to get your guests in the mood to be merry. While it’s not necessary to transform your home into a winter wonderland, tasteful Christmas decorations on a real tree will go a long way towards building ambiance. You don’t need a full-sized train that runs through the house carrying guests from room-to-room, but any cool, old toys add to the feeling of Christmas.

A few years ago, as couple that were known to give the best parties invited us for the Christmas shindig and they did a couple of things that were very cool. First, they had the classic black and white movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life” (with the volume down) running on their big screen TV in one room and “A Christmas Carol” (again, volume down) running on another TV. This was an immediate conversation starter because everyone has a story associated with either these stories or Christmases that they have had in the past.

The other thing they did was tie their party to a kid’s charity. Every guest was asked to bring an unwrapped gift for a specific age range of kids and all of these gifts were taken to the charity for kids that would have otherwise not had a great Christmas. Having all of these toys sitting under the tree was a very cool effect for the party.

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Save the date/ Invitation
Invite guests in advance. There’ll be lots of parties around this time, the Christmas engagement calendar fills up fast and you want to get your party on the roster. Send the ‘save the date’ well in advance so your party takes priority.

Africans by nature do not RSVP, so if everyone hasn’t responded a week from the date, contact them with a quick message. Make sure you prepare a few extras as people tend to bring friends along sometimes and if you’d rather they didn’t, please indicate it in the invitation in the best possible polite way. For sit-down formal dinners, having an accurate head count is necessary to be sure there is enough seating for everyone.

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Decide what kind of meal and the style of service, is it buffet? Sit down meal? Whatever you decide you have to plan for it in advance. Your budget will determine whether to cook or cater. Feel free to hire a catering company or get a friend or family member if you feel you need help with the cooking. Some people work till the last days of the holidays and may not have time to shop or cook, or let’s face it; you may not necessarily be able to cook everything on your menu, so get real!

If you chose to do the cooking yourself make sure you plan your menu in advance so when your guests arrive, everything is set. Keep the menu simple and opt for a buffet presentation instead of table service, allowing guests to “help” you this way.

To make your life simpler and make your guests comfortable, prepare a table with a beautiful tray with glasses, napkins and the drinks you’ll be serving. Serve your guests’ first glass to welcome them and let them know they can help themselves at any time.




More often than not, Christmas parties are just “meet and greet” events with very little fun. Think about the birthday parties you went to as a kid. Would any mom or dad in their right mind throw a birthday party without planning some fun stuff to do? Of course not. OK, here are three ideas to get your holiday party started.

#1 Hire a Santa with a BIG personality. Encourage your guests to sit on his knee and tell him (a) if they’ve been naughty or nice (have him insist that they tell him why), (b) what they want for Christmas this year and why. Be sure that there is a microphone nearby so that everyone can hear everything that’s being said and set up a video camera on a tripod to tape every encounter. Then post the best of these videos on your Facebook page for all your friends to remember the party. Not surprisingly, the comments are often outrageous and always hysterical and they get better as the hour gets later!

#2 Have a contest for the ugliest Christmas sweater, tie or other apparel and be sure to include reference to the contest on the invitation. This will ensure that you will have plenty of contestants because everyone has a tasteless, but FESTIVE sweater, tie or shirt. This will also provide some great Facebook postings after the party.

#3 Give every guest their own stocking stuffed with party favors as they are leaving the party. You can find inexpensive Christmas stockings at any party store and the goodies can be anything from fruit, candy, little toys, pocketknives for the guys and diaries for the girls.

Holiday parties can be a blast and with digital cameras, the fun can keep going for days on your social networks. Let us know if you used any of these ideas and how your guests responded.

Ice breakers
Introduce your guests when they arrive, especially if you feel they don’t know each other “Shade meet Ngozi, you remember when you said you needed someone to bake your daughter’s cake? She bakes delicious cakes!” That usually helps to break the ice and encourages your shy guests to mingle.

Finally, get yourself ready a good hour before your guests are set to arrive. The last thing you want after so much preparation is to look stressed out when welcoming your friends and colleagues in.

Make sure you check your restroom and include a small candle or flower arrangement in there. Place a small basket with items that guest may need  – from personal care to over-the-counter pain relievers.

A Christmas party is a nice way to relax with family and friends you don’t see much of during the year. Everyone has a chance to show off their best holiday clothes and share good laughs.

Have fun, take lots of pictures, and enjoy the party!


Date Appeal: To Marry African Or Nah? For the African Blooded and American Born

The family pressures are outstanding


Every African child has received the infamous “marry within our culture” talk, some parents may not have been pushy about it, but they still made you aware of their “wishes”. Its not that they don’t like people of other cultures they just feel that this person will not follow customs and traditions they raised their child with. They feel as though our African values will be lost in generations to come. When an African child notifies their parents that that their love is not what they had hoped…well we’ve all experienced this:


Most African parents want their girls in their matrimonial home by the age of 28 and bouncing baby boys and girls to hold by age 30. The men have it easy with most parents wanting them to be settled by the age of 30, once the big 3-0 has passed the family descends upon the poor guy lol.


Now it is said that we as Africans should marry within our culture in order to have a strong family bond you know Liberians with Liberians, Nigerians with Nigerians and so on. Sometimes it goes as far as same tribe with same tribe in order to gain your families approval for marriage. Well everyone doesn’t agree with that idea, especially those of us raised in an African home in the USA and abroad. I totally believe  you can marry outside of the culture in my eyes just as long as the person is open minded and willing to accept what makes you diverse.


Now many girls feel African men are great providers and will make sure you always have what you want while Americans are seen as the “cheap/stingy” guys. Americans are also seen as free spirited and liberal minded while African men are seen as controlling and closed minded.Don’t get mad at me I’m just the messenger. So the question lies with all of these stereotypes and embedded thoughts of these different groups of people what will you do? Will people be drinking palm wine on your head and have thousands of dollars sprayed on you or have a traditional engagement party?


Here are some tips on African men to help you with the big question “marry African or nah?”

1) Hennessy, dark liquor, Stout, or Heineken or other heavy beers are the drink of choice. First thing you must bring your man after a heavy plate of food at a party…yeah boo just skip over the ciroc and budweiser.


2) Get in the KITCHEN! : You must cook at least a few times a week to please an African man, sorry no burgers and french fries or takeout every night. African men are spoiled by their mother’s cooking and most even though they wont admit it expect it from their wife.

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3) Half meat and fish and Half rice: Have you ever met an African man that doesn’t like meat or fish?…I know me NEITHER. When you cook, you must add chicken, goat, turkey, or fish in a man’s food, if not it’s not a complete meal…don’t forget the rice either. I’m serious Give him a plate of rice without meat or fish and see the look he will give you. Keep his gut full!


4) Alpha male: African men  want to show how they are a man, they could show it through their fortunes, how they treats you, or by their religious and mental level. In order to stroke his ego you will have to stand down sometimes, listen to him and be submissive.  African men are normally from two parent homes and are taught to be the head of the household. This may not hold true in other cultures. The need to take care of certain obligations for a woman comes naturally for them. In some other cultures independent women are praised and women are praised for taking care of themselves financially.


5) Not into romance, but will put that work in!. I don’t know what it’s like in the open public between you and your African man but I can almost guarantee it’s great behind closed doors, when you guys are… You know what. cough. They may not be the most romantic men (ie buying flowers, writing poems, rose pedals surrounding the house), but they will express the love in the bedroom. Now it is very possible to find sensual men in other cultures, but word around the street is African men seem to have a great knowledge of what makes a girl happy in that department.

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So  will you be wearing a gele or a veil?



Beauty Appeal: Mac Cosmetics Introduce New Colors

Ka’oir has some serious competition


M.A.C  Cosmetics just introduced new hues in different product lines. M.A.C Pro Cosmetics were only sold to M.A.C Pro Members, but now the Pro cosmetics are  available for your own artistry. There are many pigmented colors in the different product lines. The lines consist of Pigments, Palettes, Paint Pots and more. The colors are very similar to the very popular Ka’oir line of cosmetics that Jamaican model, stylist & business woman Keyshia Ka’oir (formerly Keyshia Dior) created.


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Keyshia has quite a following and has grown her lipstick line into a multi-million make-up empire! Ka’oir has an up with their premium line of glitz sticks. Make up fans everywhere are excited because both companies are A1 when it comes to quality and produce fabulous results.